| Parents Who Love
| Parents Who Love
Too Much
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Gives time, attention, and affection to the child and provides for his
emotional and physical needs.
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Enmeshes himself in the child's life and sees the child as an extension
of (her)himself.
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Is determined to be the best parent he or she can be, while recognizing that
it's impossible to be perfect.
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"Overparents" and overprotects the child in an effort to dispel anxiety over being
a "good" parent or to make up for his/her own childhood.
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Accepts that the child has strengths and weaknesses. he/she provides a
nonjudgmental atmosphere in which self-esteem is fostered.
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nconcsciously judges the child who can't live up to his/her rigid expectations.
He/she does for the child, rather than with the child, fearing that the child
will fail without her/his help.
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Encourages independence and growth while setting appropriate limits, Thus providing
a safe environment for the child to explore and promoting his autonomy.
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Discourages the child's independence, seeks to control the child's thoughts, feeling,
and actions, and unconsciously wishes to mold the child into the image of his highest
expectations of himself.
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Communicates with the child in a direct, open, and honest way, creating an atmosphere
of safety and trust.
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Often creates insecurity and mistrust by communicating indirectly with the child,
seeking, unconsciously, to manipulate or control.
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Listens to the child and gives out of a desire to meet the child's emotional or
material needs.
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Unconsciously gives to meet his/her own unmet desires and unfulfilled hope,
with little regard to what the child truly needs.
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| Encourages the child's internal strengths and qualities. |
Is more concerned with externals and anxiously compares his child to others. |
