Austin Marriage Counseling for New Parents--Bringing Baby Home

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Austin Marriage and Couples Counselor, Carolyn C. Martin, MS, LPC, LMFT offers John Gottman's Bringing Baby Home Program to New Parents


Ah! There's nothing like bringing a new baby home.

You fall in love with that beautiful angelic face, and your heart just melts. What could be more delightful than holding that precious bundle you’ve been waiting on for nine months?

You bring Little “Johnny” or “Suzy” home and start your new life as a family. But did you know, according to research done by John Gottman, Ph.D. at the Relationship Research Institute,

“. . .within three years after the birth of a child, approximately two-thirds of couples will experience a significant drop in relationship quality and have a dramatic increase in conflict and hostility.”

And, did you know that:

  • On the first birthday of a child, his/her parents have a 67% chance of reporting that they are unhappy with their marriage?
  • 50% to 80% of new mothers and 30% of new fathers suffer depression — the result of dramatic drops in couple intimacy?

Couples often forget or are unaware that their relationship needs nurturing just like their new baby needs nurturing, and therefore, often find themselves neglecting the relationship.

“We now know that the couple's emotional life is the real foundation for a baby's development. A hostile parent-parent relationship holds lasting negative effects on the baby's emotional and cognitive development. These long-tern effects mean that a majority of American children are experiencing a tragic loss of family connection long before they ever enter school.”
- John Gottman, PH.D.

Research shows that when a parent is depressed, babies:

  1. become less responsive, emotionally withdrawn and lack joy.
  2. won’t explore their environment and won’t experience new events with delight.
  3. develop brain wave patterns that resemble those of its depressed parent.
  4. may have developmental delays.
  5. have an inability to self-soothe and attend to play.
  6. show lower scores in areas of intellectual development by age four.

Research shows that when a parent's relationship is distressed, babies:

  1. have more negative interactions with their parents than other babies.
  2. withdraw from their fathers.
  3. are at risk for developing mental heath problems.
  4. are less physically healthy and sick more often.
  5. are at increased risk for developing behavioral problems.

“The greatest gift you can give your child is a strong relationship between the two of you. The real cradle that holds your baby is the emotional world between the two of you.”
- John Gottman, Ph.D.

The Bringing Baby Home Program is now available through Mariposa Psychotherapy Services. Bringing Baby Home is a research-based, psycho-educational intervention based on the research of John Gottman, Ph.D. It teaches couples how to strengthen their friendship, increase intimacy, and regulate conflict. For more information on John Gottman, see For more information about the Bringing Baby Home Program see

At Mariposa Psychotherapy Services, the Bringing Baby Home Program can be presented either in individual therapy sessions or in a group setting.

You can reach Carolyn C. Martin, M.S., L.P.C., L.M.F.T. at 512-795-0402.

Or, you can email me at

This workshop is an independent offering, not owned or sponsored by BBH LLC.